The Survival of a Long Distance Marriage

Once you get married, you rarely think about living away from your spouse. But, at times work and other circumstances may put some geographical distance between you and your beloved. Adjusting to a long-distance marriage is not an easy task for any couple. So, for all those couples out there, here are a few simple tips to make your marriage strong regardless of the distance.

Communication:

It does not matter for how many hours you talk over the phone or have a video chat, but it is important to talk every day. Share your days work with each other. Express your feelings, since this is your only way of sharing some intimacy with your better half. If you are unable to call him then make sure that you leave him a small text message, so that you two stay in touch somehow.

Love Letter:

Yes, we know it seems old-fashioned, especially in the age where technology reaches faster. But, only when you try this out, you will understand the true magic of a beautifully written love letter. Think about all the things you are not able to say to out loud; your love letter will express it all. These handwritten letters and notes will become your keepsake for the whole life.

Gifts:

Well, if you are not that good with words, then occasionally send some gifts to your partner. Think about the expressions when he/she sees a bunch flowers at the doorstep or when he/she receives a dress that you have bought for an important occasion. They will not only appreciate your gestures, but will also reciprocate them with love. So, next time you go shopping for yourself, do buy a gift for him/her as well.

Technology:

For a long-distance relationship, technology is definitely a God-given boon. So, use these real-time communication mediums to your advantage. Take time out to create a date setting while you are video chatting with your partner or play favorite songs when you are talking on the phone. While you are talking, you can also plan all those things that you would do when you two come together. This will give you something to look forward to.

Visit:

If you can make this happen then it will work wonders for your marriage. Just imagine the precious expressions when he/she sees you standing in front of him/her. They would jump at the opportunity of taking you in their arms. So, make a plan to visit, once in a while. But, yes do make sure that they do not have any travelling plans during those days, as that will just dampen your surprise visit.

Cherish:

Whatever time you get together, make the most of it. You can also fix your plan beforehand. Make a list of all the things you want to do together. But, above everything else just sit down and talk your heart out! Never pick up old fights or arguments, because this will make your ‘little’ time together bitter and awkward. The best idea would be to have a romantic date on the last day of the visit. This will leave you both with some beautiful memories to think about when you go back.

Expectations:

Once you get married, you have lot of expectations. You dream of being with each other, all the time. But sooner you face the reality, the easier it gets. Your man is out there to earn and provide support for his family. Living away from home is not easy for him as well. So, try to understand his situation. So, give your marriage some breathing space.

Insecurity:

In a long-distance marriage, it is quite natural to have certain fears about your relationship. If you have any insecurity or any doubt building up in your mind then talk about it with your partner. Pent-up feelings will only make the matters worse. So, keep an open channel of communication between yourself.

A long-distance relationship survives on Trust, Love and Communication. 

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